Wednesday, June 26, 2013

What do I do about....

My 4 year old is the worst at back talking and mumbling under her breathe and I'm not sure what to do about it.  I know this isn't proper behavior for a 4 year old, or is it?  I've tried time out, I've tried getting down on her level and telling her it's not nice to talk to mommy or daddy like that, I've even popped her in the mouth right after she's back talked, I've taken toys away.  I'm not sure what else I can do, cause all the those things listed above don't seem to phase her one bit.  After she gets into trouble she's good for a short time and then she's back to back talking.
Don't get me wrong she doesn't back talk all the time but it happens more than I want it to.  She is a good kid and I know this all just may be a phase.  She might be acting out cause she doesn't get enough one on one attention from her dad and I.  It's really hard to give her that attention with 2 younger siblings and I feel bad.  I don't want her to feel left out.  When she wakes up from her naps earlier than her sisters I try to do something fun just her and I.  I would love to go out just her and I and have a fun mom and daughter date.  It makes it hard with Jason working and grandma working during the day to do something.  I don't know, maybe I need to stop making excuses and just take her out after Jason gets home from work for like an hour or so.
Is this just something 4 year olds do?
Is she just testing her limits to see how much she can get away with?
I'm trying to nip this little problem in the butt real fast cause she has a 2 in a half year old sister who is listening to her every word and is starting to talk back as well.  I will not tolerate back talking!  I hate it and I think it's very disrespectful.  I'm not raising my kids to be that way. 
I would love to get some advice from other moms who've been through this and things that worked for you or just any advice on things that you may think will work.


  1. Good luck Momma, I feel like this is a stage every little girl needs to go through ;) Fingers crossed it's not a preview of what's to come in the teen years!

  2. I have no expert advice as I don't have a four year old yet, but as with most parenting the bets thing you can do is just be consistent. Nip it in the butt right when it happens and even when you are super frustrated, keep calm but firm. That's the best I can do, although it's super broad. And of course, update us on how it's going. :)

  3. Let me know when you figure out what works. I feEl like I've done everything and am getting no where. :/

  4. I think it must be normal! Raya does the *exact* same thing. Her latest is she yells at us...if we tell to eat more food at dinner for example she'll yell really snotty "I SAID, how many more bites!?!" lol...oh my. We've had good luck with not saying anything...we just get up from whatever we are doing *immediately*, don't say anything as we walk/carry her to timeout, and then before we leave we say "we will come back in 5 minutes to see if you are ready to speak to us nicely. You do NOT yell/sass/be rude to mommy and daddy.

    Now about 50% of the time she will stop herself mid-sentence and start talking really sweetly haha.